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Single, never married
Divorced
Widowed
Married
Separated
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Female
Male
Marital Status:
Gender:
Current Age:
# of Children:
Race (optional):
Country if other than United States:
State of Residence:
Religious Affiliation / Background:
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Catholic
Lutheran
Protestant
Jewish
Other Christian
Other Non-Christian
Agnostic
Atheist
Spiritual but not religious
I'd Rather Not Say
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Progressive (follow none/almost none of my religion's teachings)
Moderate (follow some of my religion's teachings)
Conservative (follow most of my religion's teaching)
Strict (follow all of my religion's teachings)
I'd Rather Not Say
Religious "Attitude"
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No
Unsure
Have you previously submitted answers to this survey?
Dating ... please be honest , it's anonymous
If single, what type of situation are you ideally looking for?
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Casual dating with one dating partner at a time, not officially exclusive
Casual dating alternating with multiple dating partners
Long term exclusive relationship
Marriage
Other
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I live alone
I live with 1 roommate
I live with 2 or more roommates
I live with my relationship partner
I live with my parents
I live with other family members
Other
What is your current living situation?
If you practice a certain faith / religion, are you looking for someone who shares that faith / religion?
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Yes
No
I would prefer it but I'm open to those of different faiths / religions
Undecided
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Daily
Weekly
Weekly and Easter and Christmas
Monthly
Only for Special Occasions
Only on Easter and / or Christmas
Weekly and All Holy Days of Obligation
Never
If you are Catholic do you attend Mass?
Do you want to have children?
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Yes
No
Undecided
If yes, how many children would you hope for?
Approximately, how many different people would that you say you dated in the last year?
How/where do you meet most of the people you date?
What prompts you to ask someone out?
What signals do you give someone when you’re interested in him/her?
What signals (if any) do you look for before asking someone out?
Do you ask someone you’re interested in out?
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Yes, as soon as I feel like I want to date him/her
No, I wait for him/her to ask me out
First I wait for him/her to ask me out, if that doesn't happen I do the asking
Yes and No depending on the situation
Reasons why you wouldn't ask someone you're interested in out?
Would you date someone that you know as a friend? If not, why wouldn't you date someone you know as a friend? If so, how would you initiate the transition from friend to dating partner? Would you date someone that you work with? If not, why wouldn't you date someone you work with? Have you ever tried online dating? If yes, how long have you been using online dating services? If yes, which online dating services do you use? How often (if ever) do you date people that you meet on these online dating sites? What advantages/disadvantages do you find with online dating? Do you belong to a social / professional networking site (such as Myspace, Facebook, etc.)? If yes, which social / professional sites do you use? How often (if ever) do you date people that you meet on these sites? Would you date someone older than you? Reasons why you would or wouldn't date someone older than you? What age range do you find acceptable for your dating / relationship partners? If you found out after you started dating someone that he/she was above or below your date range (they didn’ t lie, you just assumed they were younger or older), would you continue to date that person? f you're not initially physically attracted to someone who asks you out but who seems nice, would you go out with him/her at least once to see if anything sparks? After a first date in which you liked the person and wanted to go out again, when/how would you let them know you had a good time and would like to go out with them again (for example, text them that info when you got home, call and tell them the next day, email him/her 3 days later? Do you have certain “rules” that you follow when you start dating someone? What are those dating rules, if any? Do you feel like most people play “games” when they’re dating? If someone asked you out that you weren’t interested in, would you? If you would lie, why would you choose this option instead of being straightforward? What are your biggest complaints about people that you date and dating in general? How long do you think you need to date someone before you get to know the “real” person? How many dates do you usually go out with someone (or how long) before you decide that you want to make it an exclusive dating relationship? How many dates do you usually go on with someone before you decide that you want to end it? How do you usually end a dating relationship (have a talk, just stop calling, send a "break up" email, etc)? How would you prefer someone to end a dating relationship with you? Have you ever been in love? How many times have you been in love? When you’ve been in love, how did you know? If you’ve been in love, how long were you dating that person (those people) before you knew you were in love? If you are currently in an exclusive relationship, how long have you been in it? What is the longest exclusive relationship you’ve ever been in? How many exclusive relationships have you had that have lasted over 2 months? Do most of your relationships end on good terms? Why do you think most of your relationships end? Have you ever stayed friends with past relationship partners?
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Yes
No
Undecided
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Yes
No
Undecided
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Yes
No
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Yes
No
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Yes
No
Undecided
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Yes, whether older or younger
Yes, if older, not younger
Yes, if younger, not older
No
Undecided
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Yes
No
Undecided
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Yes
No
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Yes
No
Undecided
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Give him/her your info and go out with them anyway
Be honest and say you're not interested
Say no thanks and make an excuse
Say yes but give them phony info so they can't reach you
I've done all of the above at 1 point or another
Other
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Yes
No
It seemed like love, but now I don't think it was
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Yes
No
Some do and some don't
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Yes
No
I have tried, but eventually it didn't work being just friends
Do you have any additional comments or views you would like to share regarding ANY OF THE ABOVE TOPICS?
Money... please be honest , it's anonymous
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Employed - Full Time
Employed - Part Time
Self Employed
Attending School - Full Time
Attending School - Part time
Other
What is your working situation? What is your salary range? How much money would you say you have saved (including IRAs)? If you asked the other person out, do you usually pay for the first date? I f the other person asked you out, do you usually pay for the first date? Who do you think should pay for the first date? Who do you think should pay for any subsequent dates? Do you have any comments / views on who should pay for dates? If you’ve been paying for all of the dates and you would like your dating partner to pay sometimes, what would you do? If your dating partner, who has been paying for all of the dates, in some way communicates to you that he/she would like you to pay sometimes, what would you do/how would you feel? How would you like your dating partner (who has been paying for all of the previous dates) to communicate to you that he/she would like you to pay sometimes? When you go out with a platonic friend who's a member of the opposite sex, how is the tab handled? Would you discuss your income with someone you're dating? If you wanted to discuss each other's income when and how would you do it? Would you continue to date (and possibly marry) someone that had credit card debt or an outstanding loan(s) (other than a mortgage) but who was employed? Would you continue to date (and possibly marry) someone that had little or no savings (or assets) but who was employed? Would you date someone who was looking for a job, but was currently unemployed?
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$0-999
$1000-9999
$10,000-19,999
$20,000-29,999
$30,000-39,999
$40,000-49,999
$50,000-59,999
$60,000-69,999
$70,000-79,999
$80,000-89,999
$90,000-99,999
$100,000-124,999
$125,000-149,999
$150,000-174,999
$175,000-199,999
$200,000+
I'd Rather Not Say
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$0-499
$500-999
$1000-4999
$5000-9999
$10,000-19,999
$20,000-29,999
$30,000-39,999
$40,000-49,999
$50,000-59,999
$60,000-69,999
$70,000-79,999
$80,000-89,999
$90,000-99,999
$100,000-124,999
$125,000-149,999
$150,000-174,999
$175,000-199,999
$200,000-249,999
$250,000-299,999
$300,000-349,999
$350,000-399,999
$400,000-499,999
$500,000-999,999
$1 Mil +
I'd Rather Not Say
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I take the bill and pay when my date doesn't offer
I take the bill and pay even when my date offers to pay
I take the bill, but let him/her pay if they offer
I wait for the other person to take the bill and don't offer to pay
I wait for the other person to take the bill, but offer to pay
Other
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I take the bill and pay when my date doesn't offer
I take the bill and pay even when my date offers to pay
I take the bill, but let him/her pay if they offer
I wait for the other person to take the bill and don't offer to pay
I wait for the other person to take the bill, but offer to pay
Other
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Man
Woman
The person who asked the other person out
Tab should be split
Other
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Man
Woman
The person who asked the other person out
Tab should be split
Other
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I usually pay even if my friend offers
My friend usually pays, but I offer
We alternate, I pay for one, he/she pays for the next
We split the tab
Other
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Yes
No
Maybe
Undecided
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Yes date, yes marry
Yes date, not marry
No, wouldn't date, wouldn't marry
Maybe
Undecided
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Yes date, yes marry
Yes date, not marry
No, wouldn't date, wouldn't marry
Maybe
Undecided
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Yes
No
Maybe
Undecided
Do you have any additional comments or views you would like to share regarding MONEY issues?
Trust... please be honest , it's anonymous
Do you prefer your dating/relationship partner to always be honest with you or lie to protect your feelings?
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Honest with me all the time
Honest except for very little white lies, for example, I like your outfit, etc.
Lie whenever he/she thinks my feelings will be hurt
Undecided
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Yes, I lie about whatever I don't want him/her to know
Yes, but only little white lies
Yes, but only so I don't hurt his/her feelings
No
Maybe
Undecided
Do you lie to your dating/relationship partners? How often do you lie to your dating/relationship partners? What are some of the reasons you lie to your dating/relationship partners? Do you feel badly when you lie (other than little white lies) to your dating/relationship partner? What do you consider “cheating” in a relationship (the selections shown are all done with someone other than your relationship partner) ? Do you feel that you have to tell someone that you have just begun dating that you want a long term relationship even if you don’t? If you do, why do you feel that you have to tell someone that you want a long term relationship even if you don’t? When you begin to date someone do you act? If you initially try to hide some of your imperfections, when do you feel that you start to show your true self to someone you’re dating? If you’re in an exclusive relationship, do you think your partner should still go out to bars with their single friends? Why or why not? If you’re in an exclusive relationship, would you mind if your partner went out with a single member of the opposite sex who was a friend? Why or why not? Do you talk to your friends and/or family about the negative aspects of your dating/relationship partner? Do you talk to your friends about the intimate details of your relationships (including sex if you have it)? If your dating/relationship partner shared personal information with you that he/she didn’t want you to share with anyone else, would you be able to honor their wishes and keep it a secret? If your relationship ended, would you share confidences that were shared with you with others since you are no longer together?
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Every time we're together
Once every few times we're togehter
Rarely
Never
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No
Sometimes
Select all that apply
Flirting
Kissing
Intimate Phone Conversations
Intimate Electronic Communication
Oral Sex
Sexual Intercourse
All of the Above
None of the Above
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Yes
No
Sometimes
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I try to be myself, faults and all
I try to be on my best behavior
Either one depending on my date
Other
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Yes
No
Generally no, but it depends on the situation
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Yes
No
Generally no, but it depends on the situation
Undecided
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Yes
No
Sometimes
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Yes
No
Sometimes
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Yes
No
Sometimes
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Yes
No
Sometimes
Do you have any additional comments or views you would like to share regarding TRUST issues?
Sex and Intimacy (for those over the age of consent) ...
What are your views on sex before marriage? Do you (or would you) engage in premarital sex? If you have had sex, what age were you for your first time? Do you feel that you had sex for the first time too early, too late or at just the right age? If you haven’t had sex, what is your reason (for example, waiting for marriage, against my religion, haven’t met the right person, waiting for love, etc.)? If you are not open to the idea of sex before marriage and you knew that someone that asked you out (or that you had already started dating) had already had sex with others would you date that person if they respected your views? If you are open to the idea of sex before marriage, do you expect your partner to be open to it as well and have sex with you? If yes, when do you expect your partner to have sex with you (for example: first date, fourth date, when we begin an exclusive relationship, etc.) If you are open to the idea of sex before marriage, on which date # or at which point of time (1 month, 6 months) etc. do you usually have sex together for the first time? Would you date or continue to date someone who chooses not to have sex before marriage? If you are open to the idea of sex before marriage and you were in a sexual relationship, how many times a week would you want to have sex with your partner and how many times would you actually have sex with your partner? Whether or not you are open to the idea of sex before marriage, do you consider oral sex “sex”? If you are open to the idea of sex before marriage, would you (do you) participate in oral sex with your partner? In the previous question if you said you don't enjoy it do you still do it because your partner wants you to? If you are sexually active, do you use contraceptives? If you were married and sexually active would you use: natural family planning, contraceptives, neither, other. Whether or not you are open to the idea of sex before marriage, do you ever “stimulate” yourself? If you are open to sex before marriage, when you aren’t exclusively dating one person, do you have sex with multiple partners? If you are open to premarital sex, approx. how many people have you had sex with in the last year? If your relationship partner wanted to live together before marriage, would you do it?
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Yes
No
Undecided
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Yes
No
Undecided
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Yes
No
Maybe
Undecided
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Yes
No
Undecided
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No
Yes, Enjoy Giving and Receiving
Yes, Don't Enjoy Giving, but Enjoy Receiving
Yes, Enjoy Giving, but Don't Enjoy Receiving
Yes, Don't Enjoy Giving or Receiving
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Yes, even though my partner knows I don't enjoy it
Yes, my partner doesn't know I don't enjoy it
No, I let him/her know that I don't enjoy it
No, I just don't do it
Sometimes
Very Rarely
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Yes
No
Sometimes
Most of the time
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Natural Family Planning
Contraceptives
Neither
Other
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Yes
No
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Yes
No
Sometimes
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Yes
No
Maybe
Do you have any additional comments or views you would like to share regarding SEX and INTIMACY?
Commitment please be honest , it's anonymous
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Yes
No
Maybe
Do you feel that you have a fear of marriage? If you feel you have a fear of marriage, what are you most afraid of (for example, marrying the wrong person, not having enough combined resources for a family or desired lifestyle, being unhappy in marriage when you’re pretty happy single, etc.) If your goal is marriage, how long would you date someone who hadn’t proposed or who said she/he wasn’t ready for marriage at this time (dating time should start when you first started dating) If you got married, would you feel like divorce was an option if you felt things weren’t going well? If yes, what reasons would you feel would be cause for a divorce? How would you describe your ideal relationship partner? What are your dating relationship "dealbreakers"? What do you think are the most important “ingredients” for a successful long term relationship ranked in order of importance?
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No
Maybe
Undecided
Do you have any additional comments or views you would like to share regarding COMMITMENT, MARRIAGE and LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS?
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